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Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Self-Esteem and Successful Relationships

Research has well established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about
ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat
others, especially in intimate relationships.

“Low self-esteem can make you test or sabotage relationships that have potential, or settle for relationships in which you’re treated in a way that matches your beliefs about yourself,” says clinical psychologist Suzanne Lachmann, Psy.D.

People with high self-esteem are aware of the fact that to maintain a successful relationship; inner happiness is all that matters. And to keep up with that, one should know his self-worth, which has nothing to do with money,
education or health. Individuals who have a high level of self-recognition are acutely aware of themselves and what they want from a relationship. Before involving a long-lasting and positive relationship, he always starts by respecting himself.

He strives to know about himself and also if he is ready for the future consequences of involvement. Therefore, all the qualities mentioned above for a person with high self-esteem, make him stand out among the rest. Knowing their worth first, helps them to involve with a better understanding of a relation.

If you have low self-esteem you won’t be able to relate to others well. You may feel a lack of confidence in social situations. Your body language may be negative and you will not respond to others positively. Relationships you have had for a while can quickly go downhill if you suffer from low self worth. Even the best of friends will grow tired of someone who cannot help himself / herself. You may take on a victim mentality. This means you will blame everyone and everything for how you feel. You will not be able to relate to others well because you will act like a victim rather than an equal.

Why not complete the ‘Quizzes and More’s The Self Worth Quiz?



Once you’ve completed the scale, add together all of the numbers assigned to each response you chose, and review the appropriate feedback below.

If Your Score Ranged From:


10-25 –
Your score indicates that you have a fairly poor sense of your self
worth. And chances are that your ideas about yourself are not really
accurate – you may be focusing too much on the negative and ignoring the
many positive aspects of who you are as a person. Poor self worth is
something you should consider working on because it can interfere with your
interest in and ability to go after challenging goals. It can also make it more
difficult for you to find a healthy romantic relationship, with a partner who
values you as a person and who treats you well. Click here to learn more
about what you can do to work on developing a more positive sense of self
worth.

26-40 – Your score indicates that your sense of self worth is moderate – lower
in some areas and higher in others. Although no one feels they’re the best at
everything (and, of course, no one actually is the best at everything), it’s
possible that some of your more negative feelings about yourself could be improved
by a change of focus, or working harder to accomplish certain goals.

41-50 – Your score indicates that you have a fairly positive sense of your self
worth. That’s great, because feeling this way can improve your ability to
successfully accomplish challenging goals, and to find and maintain a healthy
romantic relationship.

Healthy Self-Worth in Relationships
When you understand the influence that lack of self-worth has on your
relationships, you can take steps to change what stands in the way of a
meaningful and balanced relationship. A healthy sense of self-worth can
transform your life.

If you are looking to find a life long partner, join our Social Club for singles!

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10 Keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship

 According to psychologists Nathaniel Branden and Robert Sternberg, who
have both researched and written about the challenges of romantic
relationships, little displays of interest and affection can be more important than all the “active listening” and trust games in the world. Their research has suggested 10 keys to a Successful Romantic Relationship, keeping both partners content, satisfied, and happy with each other.

1. Tell your partner you love them.

Although it’s true that actions speak louder than words, words often speak
more clearly than actions. Take a moment every now and then to verbalize
your feelings for your partner.
It shows commitment- The phrase I love you is a big step in any relationship so by repeating it -shows you are still embracing this milestone each and every day.
It makes your partner feel secure- If something has rocked your relationship
lately- this can let your loved one know that whatever life throws at you- you
still love them no matter what.

2. Show some affection

Small acts of physical intimacy – the hand on the small of the back as you
brush by in the hallway, your arm around their shoulder on the sofa, your
hand on their thigh when seated side-by-side, holding hands while walking
down the street. Small affectionate moments can have a big ripple affection in
your relationship. When we show affection to our partners and husbands, they
feel noticed, respected, and cherished.

3. Show appreciation to your partner

Appreciation is a key to any relationship. Appreciating someone makes them
feel good about what they do, and that it makes a difference to their lives. It
makes them feel better about themselves, urging them to go on with new
vigor, strengthening your relationship.

4. Share yourself

When people share their opinions and feelings they develop a greater
understanding of each other’s likes and dislikes. It may also help to work out
what each other are wanting from the relationship. Don’t keep your likes and
dislikes, dreams and fears, achievements and mistakes, or anything else to
yourself. If it’s important to you, share it with your partner.

5. Be there for your partner.

It’s obvious what you need to do when your partner faces a major life
challenge like the loss of a job or the death of a loved one. But it’s just as
important to be supportive when your partner faces life’s little challenges, too
– an argument at work, a rough commute, a misplaced check. Don’t let
yourself be a doormat, and definitely don’t stand for physical or verbal abuse,
but thicken your skin a little and be the voice of calm and reason when chaos strikes. Listen to what’s bothering them and offer whatever help – even if it’s just sympathy – you can.

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6. Give gifts

Gifts have always been an important part in developing healthy, loving
relationships. Apart from being just a simple gesture of appreciation towards
your partners, giving the right gifts can show just how much you care for, and
understand them. While all relationships are unique, no one can deny the
impact these things have on creating a stronger bond and deeper connection
with each other. The time one takes to get to know his or her partner’s
preferences, personalities, and unique quirks makes a well-chosen gift even
more special because of the effort that goes into choosing it.

7. Respond gracefully to your partner’s demands and shortcomings

A big killer of relationships is unreasonable expectations. Unless you married
a robot, your partner comes pre-loaded with a whole range of human failures
and foibles. These are features, not bugs! Learn to recognize and appreciate
your partner’s quirks for what they are: an essential part of who they are as
people. Since our weaknesses are often at the core of our deepest
insecurities, make sure you don’t pick on or otherwise go out of your way to
highlight your partner’s flaws.

8. Make “alone time” a priority

No matter how busy both of your lives are, make sure you commit at least an
evening every week or two to be alone together. “When we spend quality and
designated time on ourselves, we nurture our own social and emotional well- being, which makes us more likely to carry that out towards other relationships,” says therapist  Julia Colangelo , LCSW. “It is vital that to enable our relationship to grow, we must also grow and develop as a person.”

9. Take nothing for granted

Cultivate a daily sense of gratitude for your partner and the thousands of little
blessings he or she has brought into your life. Not taking each other for
granted is all about giving time for each other. It is all about showing concern
for your partner. It is all about asking how his or her day was. It is all about
giving your partner a hug before he or she leaves for work. It is all about the
small things that you do for your partner that makes him or her feel loved.

10. Strive for equality

Make sure you follow the Golden Rule in your relationship: do unto your
partner as you would have done unto you. Strive for a fair division of
household duties and other tasks, and don’t expect or demand special
considerations you’d be unwilling to offer.

If you are a single looking to find love, Corporate Cupid offers a Social Club for our members. With locally organised networking events, Corporate Cupid provides a safe and relaxed environment for those seeking to find the special someone. 

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5 Signs You May Have Met The One

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What are the signs of true love?

Love is patient.

Just like the process of finding love, love itself should never leave you feeling rushed. Moving too fast is a sign that this is not the right relationship. Love is truly patient and will wait until the time is right. Talk, get to know each other, spend time feeling comfortable. Go at your own pace. Take time to notice the little things that you do for one another. Does he open the door? Does she ask about your day? The little things mean a lot.

Love is kind.

Kindness is measurable. Does your date treat those around him or her with respect, do you feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude – a readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Anyone can purchase gifts and chocolates but they are soon gone. Kindness and respect mean a lot more.

Love bears all things.

True love means that when your partner or your date has to cancel or tells you something you may not want to hear, there is understanding rather than anger. Sometimes life gets in the way. Love understands this and knows that there will be another opportunity to plan something amazing or that we do not have control over all aspects of life. The loving partner will offer support if you need it and help you through difficult times.

Love hopes all things.

Love never wishes you ill. Your true love will always live to see you succeed. Your successes will make them truly happy just as theirs would. It is important to understand that at times in a relationship one walks while the other runs. If you are the one walking right now, hope for the best for your partner and in time it will be your turn.

Love endures all things.

Life throws many punches along the way. Loved ones pass, new loved ones arrive; houses are bought and sold. With each event there is stress and heartache or joy. Life is not easy. A true love will stand by your side through the good times and the bad. Love commits to be there with you regardless of circumstances, regardless of outcomes. Love is with you every step of the way.

A Social Club like Corporate Cupid is the perfect place to begin looking for love. You can meet in person and take your time getting to know one another. We guarantee to only match you with compatible like-minded people. Corporate Cupid is Perth’s premiere dating service for Australian singles. Visit our Social Singles Club.

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There Is A NEW Way To Meet Your Match! Clue: It’s NOT online dating

Disillusioned with online dating sites resulting in stressful dating?

Are you searching for a polite well mannered and respectful companion but simply have not found them on online dating? In the world of online dating where your first point of contact is made through a screen it is hard to make a great first impression. Here at Corporate Cupid our focus is on making the time to relax and enjoy socialising with like minded people. The event is put together by our dedicated team who choose the venue with the utmost of care and all events are expertly co-ordinated and fully hosted to ensure the highest quality experience for all. The aim is to help people build better social networks by organising events that will appeal to a wide range of people face-to-face.

No more disappointing online dating for you!

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Meeting some one in person is a much more efficient way to meet than online dating.  At singles clubs you can expect an energetic environment full of music and beverages similar people. What better way to make decisions than behind your computer screen.

Online dating apps don’t give you body language

Being forthcoming on the singles scene is often a doubt that people looking for love have, our social club is an ideal setting to meet new people as everyone is there with the same intention as you. With this in mind people don’t mind asking questions and getting to know another as they realise this is apart of the process. In the case of online matchmaking and online dating apps you do not get a sense of someone entirely because they are behind a screen, this is a great way to see emotions and body language.

When two people meet face-to-face for the first time it is a great way to feel for a ‘spark’. When meeting at the social club you will have the chance to see how your conversation flows, allow you to build trust and empathize. The lack of face-to-face places limits on the amount of connection that can be shared.

Real relationships are hard to build through
online dating apps

In-person discussions or meeting face to face can help improve efficiency as you are relying on all senses when engaging. Instead of spending your entire day sending and receiving messages. So think about the current state of your relationship. Could you benefit from making the extra effort to have a face-to-face meeting to potentially find the man or woman of your dreams?

Join our Social Club and have the chance to meet the person of your dreams!

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Be irresistible with the law of attraction

By Samantha Jayne

Your thoughts create your reality. If you think thoughts of lack, self-doubt, thinking all the good ones are gone, or that people are doing wrong by you then this is what you will experience in your life.

If you are not sure what your thoughts are, then simply ask yourself, “How do I feel?” If you feel exhausted, grumpy, or negative, this is your indicator that your thoughts are not aligned with creating an extraordinary life. On the other hand if you feel amazing, energized, catch yourself smiling a lot, laughing and spend time with incredible people with great lives and you feel lucky then you are on track to an extraordinary life. Out of the two options I know which life I’d prefer to be living and feeling. It’s not rocket science is it?

If you want you can instantly change your thoughts and start to experience great things in your life right now. To get you started write down as many things that you are grateful for as possible. Do this each day and reflect on this list with genuine gratitude. Whether it is big or small there is no right or wrong the simple act of appreciation can completely change your life. Appreciation is the antidote of fear. Appreciate each and every day, and everyone that is in it. Check in and notice how you feel? I can imagine you’re feeling lighter, have a greater sense of hope, optimism and start to notice the way other people are reacting to your new fresh approach to life. I can guarantee the opposite sex will be drawn in. At Blue Label Life we have found our clients who acknowledge take control of their thoughts and own them have found the greatest success. Join our exceptional clients and drive your own bus take responsibility for changing your thoughts and create the life you want and attract the partner you desire. Write down your goals very clearly. Use the SMART model if it helps. a. S – Simple, specific b. M – Measurable c. A – Attractive, stated ‘as if’ you already have it d. R – Realistic e. T – Timed – when will it be in your life? For example, “It is Christmas 2015 and I am standing on the balcony of my beach house, and in love! I have an incredible relationship. I enjoyed an exciting, fun and rewarding year. I feel incredible.” Think about your relationship goals daily and with feelings of appreciation for them being in your life – your mind does not know the difference between the reality outside of you and the reality in your mind. Never, ever, ever give up on the dream. Get more determined, every day, to experience your relationship goals in your life. Surround yourself with happy positive people and learn how others have achieved their goals, and if it suits you, do what they did. Act. Nothing can replace action. One step, each day, towards the achievement of your goals will bring them into your life. Don’t have ‘spurts’ of action then nothing for days or weeks. Do something, every day, no exceptions, even if it’s just to think about how good you feel having this goal in your life. My favourite saying is activity breeds success. Get out there and do the things you have always wanted to do start living and I mean living! Get a new outfit or wardrobe, start a new activity, and do something adventurous, be the person you want to date! Guess what? Before you know it, that person will find you, because you will be out there, social available and oozing confidence appeal and that is very sexy to the opposite sex. If you’d like help or some expert advice, contact our Blue Label Life team of lifestyle coaches and matchmakers we have a number of FREE products we can offer you, simply ask. We can ensure you have the tools to create success in your life. You deserve it!

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25 First Date Ideas

Share an experience

1. Watch a foreign movie – catch something a little different from the usual at Luna Leederville. You’ve immediately got a shared point of conversation and there are plenty of places nearby to grab a beverage before or after the movie.

2. Comedy night– head upstairs to Lazy Susan’s Comedy den at the Brisbane Hotel. ‘The Big Hoo-Haa!’ runs every Saturday night and sees two teams battle it out in a game of improv. Or head to the Comedy Lounge in the CBD or Fremantle at Little Creatures Next Door.

3. Quiz night– team up and test your competitive streaks against one another with a quiz night at The Old Laundry on a Monday night, The Hyde Park Hotel on a Tuesday, or The Inglewood Hotel on a Wednesday. Check your local pub, they’re bound to have a night too.

4. See something on stage– check out the latest musical showing at Crown or a live event at Perth Arena. Or see what’s playing at the Heath Ledger Theatre, Regal Theatre or at the Town Hall, especially in the winter months as tastings (cheese and wines and whiskeys etc.) start popping up all over the place. The Ellington Jazz Club is always a winner too.

5. Strawberry picking– Springtime brings delicious strawberries with it and the strawberry farm in Bullsbrook has got you covered for a sweet first date.

Take a tour

6. Eat the Street– it’s surprising how much you can learn by playing tourist in your home town. Sample the best eats and drinks across Perth on Eat the Street’s Saturday evening Barrack to Beaufort tour, or visit the Bars on Beaufort on a Thursday night.

7. Explore the CBD– the beautiful thing about Perth City is that you can still find bars down hidden alleyways that make you feel like you’ve found Perth’s best-kept secret. There’s also a view and a half at Elizabeth Quay where a spot of gelato never goes astray.

8. Swan Valley– either hop on a bus and be chauffeured around or pick any place you want (because they’re all good in the valley) and bask in the sunshine and live music. On the last Sunday of the month, you’ll find markets showcasing locally-made produce at Ugly Duckling Wines.

9. Fremantle– DIY a tour of your own and head to Little Creatures for a brew, Cicerello’s for fish and chips, Bread in Common for small bites, and top it all off with a ride on the Ferris wheel along the Esplanade.

10. AQWA or Perth Zoo– hear us out, these aren’t just for kids. AQWA regularly host adult-only events and options to dine within the underwater tunnel which, let’s face it, is just pure magic. There’s also a tranquil spot to sit and watch the goings on beneath the sea at the downstairs viewing area. And when was the last time you went to the zoo? Chances are it’s been just as long for your date too.

Get outdoors

11. Pack a picnic– keep it traditional and grab a rug and a basket and head to Kings Park for the sweeping city views, or spend an afternoon in Hyde Park. Not only is it beautiful and tranquil sitting by the lake, but Chu Bakery is right across the road and they have some of Perth’s best doughnuts. You’re welcome.

12. Take a hike – Lesmurdie Falls would be the go-to answer here, but have you heard of Ellis Brook Valley Reserve? It’s a short hike, steep but quick, about an hour roundtrip.  It all depends on how long you stop to admire the city views at the top (it’s also a nice place to pack a picnic for) and the quarry is breathtaking on the way back down.

13. Hire a kayak or catamaran– when the weather heats up, head to Coode St Jetty in South Perth and hire out kayaks or sail along the Swan River in a catamaran. No experience is necessary, staff are available to assist beginners. You’ll love it when you’re cruising together.

14. Fish and chips by the beach– does it get any better than dipping your toes in the sand after a long day and watching the sunset whilst enjoying some fish and chips? We don’t think so. We’re so very lucky to live in a city with ample, beautiful beaches to head to. Take your pick, our favourites are Scarborough, Fremantle and Hillarys.

15. Play a round of mini golf– a little healthy competition never goes astray. Try your hand at mini golf one evening at the Wanneroo Botanic Gardens. There’s also Holey Moley in the CBD but it’s smaller and louder so make plans for after (there are plenty of bars nearby).

Everybody loves brunch

16. Beaufort Street– more of a morning person? Beaufort Street has cute cafés the whole way down, including Mary St Bakery (for all your baked goods), Cantina 663 (for excellent coffee) and Blacksmith (heart-warming full plates).

17. Maylands– share a pot of bottomless tea at Chapels which boasts an impressive array of flavours to choose from. There’s also Mr S just down the road on the corner. You know it’s going to be good when the locals pack it out.

18. East Perth– nab a table outside for waterfront views and get in on the all-day-breakfast goodness at Toast. Pro tip: they do crepes (savoury and sweet) and they are very delicious.

19. Como– watch the world pass by on Canning Highway while you sit back and sip your morning coffee together at Frisch and Barc.

20. Fremantle– Ootong and Lincoln is a quirky little number, Moore and Moore Café is adorned with beautiful artwork, and Bib & Tucker has those ocean views covered, plus a fresh menu filled with WA local produce.

Small bites and a drink or two

21. Crown Towers, TWR– The Waiting Room was recently crowned the best bar in Australia in the 2018 Gourmet Traveller Australian Hotel Awards. Fun fact to tempt your date.

22. Beaufort Street, Clarences – this place really sets the mood with each booth lit by candlelight and an intimate bar down the stairs. You’ll be feeling a red wine in no time.

23. Leederville, Duende – Spanish tapas is designed for sharing and Duende delivers the (delicious) goods. It’s an intimate way to get to know your date’s tastes and not fear any order envy.

24. Applecross, Bad Apples Bar– tapas and cocktails are the specialty here, which sounds like the perfect Sunday sesh to us.

25. Northbridge, James Parker– do yourself a favour and step foot inside this venue to first appreciate the architecture and then indulge in the finest Japanese delicacies.

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Corporate Cupid Perth Dating Agency, Love History Shapes You

How Your Love History Shapes You

Have you suffered through a breakup only to hear somebody say that every relationship exists for a reason?

Have you often wondered to yourself why you have been in certain relationships, unable to find anything valuable or positive?

Many of us have been through some terrible relationships and wondered what this does to us in the long term.

If you have ever wondered how your history in love can shape you, then there are some valid ways. What you have experienced over time helps to make you the person that you are.

Not only are you sure to learn valuable lessons, but you are also likely to adapt to certain traits or beliefs.

Here are some classic ways that our live history can shape us and our lives.

It Can Make You Feel Positive or Negative About Love Though a relationship may have ended badly, you may have really enjoyed it along the way. Alternatively if you had a terrible relationship you may have been glad to see it come to an end.

What we have experienced in love helps to shape us into the people that we are. The way that we feel about love, commitment, or relationships in general is often closely linked to our history in this area.

If you feel positive then you may have experienced love firsthand but known that it wasn’t with the right person.

If you feel negative then you could have been in a terrible relationship or experienced love at its worst.

What happens over time in the relationships that we have can create positive or negative sentiments overall.

It Can Prevent You From Truly Trusting If you were cheated on or there were lies in a relationship, this can affect you deep down to your core.

Feeling betrayed in any way can really leave a scar on your heart and soul.

Though you may have moved on, you may also have a hard time trusting others. You have been lied to, cheated on, or just suffered some startling revelations and this can cause you to feel that people are inherently bad.

This is a difficult one to cope with but you can overcome it with the right relationship.

Just because one person was deceitful doesn’t mean that they all will be. You do however need to give yourself time to rebuild trust in your life!

It Can Ensure That You Place Value On What Is Truly Important To You.You truly do learn something from each and every relationship, even if you don’t realize it at the time. You start to see patterns and learn what you DON’T want in a relationship. You also start to see what you deserve and what you DO so desperately want for yourself out of love. As we are shaped by good and bad relationships, our sentiments develop. At the same time we start to learn more about ourselves. We see what we want out of a long term partner, sometimes because we found just the opposite in somebody that we dated.

We see that we deserve happiness and start to understand what that means to us. We also start to understand what we bring to a relationship and what sort value that holds. Though you may not realize it, our love history starts to shape what we want for our future. It may take us time to get to what we really want, but we know that it’s worth waiting and fighting for.

So though you may think that past relationships were a waste of time, they truly do help us to uncover certain truths about ourselves. We will quickly develop the beliefs that move us forward and hopefully allow us to get to what we know we deserve!

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Corporate Cupid Perth Dating Agency, Love Source

What is your love source?

Love is an essential human need. We crave it, we thrive on it, and happiness is a biproduct. We can feel and receive love from many areas, including:

  • Our partner;
  • Our family;
  • Our friends;
  • Our pets;
  • Our career and achievements;
  • Our possessions; and
  • Our travels and other experiences.

However, love from all of the above will never be enough. In order to love completely, we must first appreciate love from within. Self-love is our main source of positive energy. Without it, we will constantly require reassurance.

The ability to love and be loved begins from within and so many people having lost this innate source. In today’s high achieving society, where success and beauty are regarded as the key to happiness, it’s cause many of us to lose our true selves. We’re bombarded with attractive celebrity role-models, career pressures and even competition from our peers. We constantly seek the approval from others and forget that the external world is out of our control.

So take a look at where you seek love. Do need a relationship to be happy? Do you need a promotion to feel worthwhile? When you wake up each morning, how happy are you? Perhaps it’s time to focus on building your self-worth and self esteem. Loving yourself will create a brighter, peaceful future.

“Remember, happiness doesn’t depend on who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think’ – Dale Carnegie

By Samantha Jayne – Relationship Expert

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